抱紧他

怎么说呢，我不吃两位男主的颜。

说起来有些刻薄，很不喜欢蒂姆，他用行动证明了不作死就不会死，这没关系，个人选择而已。

但是跟上部影片类似的是，他的作死连累了别的人，正如他自己所说，他亲手杀了自己爱的人。

主动追求，然后新鲜感殆尽，尝试新的床伴未果又考上戏剧学院，于是又主动想要分开，是不是真的先动心的人会先死心啊。

还是说跟性格有关，内敛沉稳的人动心晚，但是心会比较持久。

温情，真实，不过分渲染什么，就是慢慢的叙述。

当时一直觉得演员颜值老，但是必须说演技要不错才可以诠释那种不一般的温情感。

有记忆点的几幕是片头Tim狂奔打电话问John的位置，因为他感觉他记不住正在lose it;Tim得知自己感染John后对妈妈说:“我感觉我亲手杀了我爱的男人”;John爸爸走过AIDS病房过道所见的一些细节场景，然后在压力和恐慌下扶墙;John带着氧气管和Tim make love的那一幕，一种无言的叹息，特别是此时的背景乐的贴切;John和Tim拆礼物，Tim的小暴躁以及John弥留之际那沉重饱含疼痛的呼吸这两幕直接泪崩。

这几幕比较有记忆点，然后记得最深的是第一个以及最后弥留之际男主的好演技，一种如果连记忆都无法挽留的深切恐慌。

即使很多都是老生常谈的剧本，但这部电影是比较紧凑的。

I didn't make it to the world premiere of Holding the man (2015) last Sunday in Sydney State Theater. But many friends went and spoke highly of. I did a quick check online and found out how influential the book has been ,basically the gay bible for Australian LGBT groups. Published in 1994, this auto-biography of Timothy Conigrave has shocked the whole Australia by its pure and real narration on homosexual love and also the description period in 1980s when HIV stroke Australia. And the play, adapted by Tommy Murphy in 2005, was also a legend in Australian theatre history, totally crash of ticket box wherever it toured. Not only has the play been on in almost every major cities in Australia and adapted by multiple theater companies such as Belvoir and Australia theater company, it also has made to London and LA for world tour. The legend continues for almost ten years and finally in 2014, director decided to adapt this story to big screen. While Tommy Murphy got rehired as screenplay writer and two hot popular Australian actors as lead, this movie has definitely become the most expected movie of the year. Audiences may get a bit worried due to the hyper successful play as a comparison. As a story about intimacy and delicate emotions, it could be much more easily demonstrated on a single stage with touching and smart dialogues. Fancy cinematographic work or extra mise-en scene could serve as minor importance in story-telling itself. But still, there are definitely more space to develop this romance in film.It is the autobiography at first place that attracted most, with the real story of Timothy and his 15-year partners John holding hand together through bitter-sweet first love, sex, fights, disease and finally death.I'm such kind of person who just cannot hold back my curiosity on such literary works. After searching online without finding new books to sell or ebook to download, I went down to the uni library and borrowed the only copy of Murphy's play. While unfortunately there was still no Timothy's work, it's worth reading the play first to see how he carried out this life-long story in a two-act play. It didn't take me long to read, maybe 2 hours or so. But I was sort of blushed inbetween sometimes, imagining the actors talking so bluntly at stage, about the expression of love and sex. Murphy ingeniously separate the two acts with scenes of love and sorrow, making audiences smile or unable to stop laughing for some of humors at first but incredibly sad and may even cry out loud during the second set. Handful of casts but every role is just en-punto. The very thing that touched me in this play is that the whole storyline and every details of love and conflicts are so real, which could happening any place or just next-door, but people just failed to notice how normal LGBT group is or how fragile true love is, as any types of groups or love. But all we could think about is "weird" "sissy""always fighting for marriage""unhealty life styles" or "HIV positive " and so on. Three scenes in the play has left me strong impression.The first one lie in the beginning when Tim wrote John the letter after their first date, talking about the erection he had and masturbation afterwords with the worry about the expression on sex could be so rush for a new couple. The monologue felt so bold yet cute when actually spoken out from a 16-year old schoolboy. While john is the one who actually read the letter with Tim adding up some of his feeling on the side, the audiences could definitely feel the chemistry and the beautiful blump in-between. The second could be when Tim, in his puberty and freshly new in college, went throughout all these temptation in gay bar and gay peers. He gradually accepted the "non-monogamy or open relationship" theory and decided to separate with John for a while. He alleged that they are both "sexual inexperienced" due to long relationship with purely each other . I believe that most of the audiences and readers will feel the stupidity and ignorance of Tim to trying to sabotage this wonderful relationship and affection(which has been built up throughout the previous scenes). This can be a turning point of the play and indicated the heartbreaking ending, especially when Tim regretted to have infected AIDS to John and cried in front her mom for redemption. But ultimately it shocks me by putting out straightly and ruthlessly how fragile love could be when facing temptations and fresh inspirations. My finally emotional outcry goes to a simple gesture or move instead a complete scene. Though I have to admit that the whole "finding out HIV positive" scenes is torturing and heartbreaking. The simple gesture that Tim "lifts up John's shirt with his mouth and snaked his head underneath it" when they lay on bed after the news and couldn't go to sleep. With too many briliant dialogues and plots in this play, this move had just crushed all the doubts and sadness about their relationship, leaving the ultimate intimacy and trust and treasure of each other. When that scene is supposed to be haunted with endless sorrow from on and off stage, this move has made us recall the beauty of love and support. Since in the play, the bed was hanging vertical above stage (audiences actually standing while leaning on the bed) , making audience have every move in sight. What's more, the design stage is lovely with the dim and lovely light around the bed on the dark and only some photos of their life together seen from behind. I can barely think of any better innovation in the film to surpass this scene. Though over three theaters around Australia has their versions and actors for this play, I still adore the first pair in Belvoir Sydney, Guy Edmond and Matt Zeremes just got this absolute chemistry and original innocence on those two characters, though the Brisbane version got much handsome ones. Anyway, looking forward to this film in August. I couldn't help but respecting Tommy Murphy as such a young successful playwright, hoping he could have more work on big screen as well.

运动场上矫健奔跑的身影，变得像行将就木的小老头一样羸弱不堪，极多的反差让人一点点开始难过。

前半部分看的我又气又想笑，长发时期两个男主颜值被封印的死死，但是磕糖磕的很欢乐，双向奔赴的爱恋永不过时，虽然每次火花四溅的时候都有修罗场来打断这点让人有点抓狂。

老师没收信件，朋友撞破两人的缠绵(这里朋友们一起裸奔的情节设计真的好有爱，还有那个口嫌体正直的朋友，有被笑到)，爸爸发现两人的关系，第一次因为家人回来被迫终止，过山车一样起起伏伏。

没成想笑着笑着就变的好悲，合理却不想接受。

得知自己正在亲手杀死自己最爱的人是什么感觉，天塌地陷莫过于此。

风流肆意，纵欲堕落终被反噬，短暂的欢愉却要用最爱的人填命，背着一个那么好的人偷腥，同情男主的同时又狠狠觉得他活该，可怜之人必有可恨之处。

那么好的约翰，生命最后连高兴的权利都被剥夺，每一次开怀都要被疼痛折磨。

结尾前后呼应，两个人高中时期的故事差点让我忘了开头那一段慌乱，镜花水月一般，美好的事物被一一吞没。

男主这里表情好怪

看完了。

开头高甜,吃着泡椒豆干的我一直痴汉笑。

等到采访病人的时候觉得不对劲了,tim出轨的时候很心疼john,病确诊了却更心疼tim.没有过15年的爱情,却也能想象相濡以沫的爱人离去的痛苦。

回忆杀的时候,抱着哭湿了的枕头,嘴里还有泡椒味儿,人怎么就没了呢。

Ci vedremo lassu,angelo.

这部同名电影改编自有澳洲同志版“罗密欧与茱丽叶”之称的真人真事小说《Holding The Man》，故事主轴都在描写一段长达十六年的爱情。

本书作者是蒂莫西‧康格里夫 (Timothy Conigrave) 三十四年短暂人生的回忆录，也是蒂莫西写给同志爱人约翰·可列奥(John Caleo)的最后情书。

影片中蒂姆对自己传染病毒给约翰非常的内疚和痛心，一直不离不弃的送走了约翰，而34岁的蒂姆相继一年多离开了人世....

抱紧他 (2015)7.72015 / 澳大利亚 / 剧情 爱情 同性 传记 / 尼尔·阿姆菲尔德 / 瑞安·柯尔 克雷格·斯托特

现在越来越多开明的国家同性恋合法化.同性恋合理,合法,客观存在,我们国家不管是教材还是实际中,以前把同性恋患者当病治,这是错误的,其实有病的不是同性恋者,有病的是落后愚昧的思想和观念.我以前有个同事,是同性恋,我们虽然自认包容同性恋,经常拿他的言行举止开玩笑,现在想想这种做法太幼稚了.不能因为不同于常人就排斥迫害异端.海里有各种鱼,陆地上有各种动物,世界的精彩在于多种多样,所以一定要有真正的包容之心.剧作家从小与同性好友相恋相爱,冲破世俗,克服困难,最后走到一起.发现好友感染了爱滋病,剧作家不离不弃,照顾好友.好友死后,剧作家写作品怀念好友,纪念曾经的爱情.他们之间的真诚的爱情比很多男女之爱更深更感人.希望中国也多一些这样的独特电影.世界很精彩毕竟不止一面,有很多面的.而电影就是要反映这更多的方方面面.(附:演员真不是普通人干的,各种牺牲奉献都需要付出.如果演员不是真同性恋,要投入拍这本电影也确实要克服很多的障碍)

I didn't make it to the world premiere of Holding the man (2015) last Sunday in Sydney State Theater. But many friends went and spoke highly of. I did a quick check online and found out how influential the book has been ,basically the gay bible for Australian LGBT groups. Published in 1994, this auto-biography of Timothy Conigrave has shocked the whole Australia by its pure and real narration on homosexual love and also the description period in 1980s when HIV stroke Australia. And the play, adapted by Tommy Murphy in 2005, was also a legend in Australian theatre history, totally crash of ticket box wherever it toured. Not only has the play been on in almost every major cities in Australia and adapted by multiple theater companies such as Belvoir and Australia theater company, it also has made to London and LA for world tour. The legend continues for almost ten years and finally in 2014, director decided to adapt this story to big screen. While Tommy Murphy got rehired as screenplay writer and two hot popular Australian actors as lead, this movie has definitely become the most expected movie of the year. Audiences may get a bit worried due to the hyper successful play as a comparison. As a story about intimacy and delicate emotions, it could be much more easily demonstrated on a single stage with touching and smart dialogues. Fancy cinematographic work or extra mise-en scene could serve as minor importance in story-telling itself. But still, there are definitely more space to develop this romance in film.It is the autobiography at first place that attracted most, with the real story of Timothy and his 15-year partners John holding hand together through bitter-sweet first love, sex, fights, disease and finally death.I'm such kind of person who just cannot hold back my curiosity on such literary works. After searching online without finding new books to sell or ebook to download, I went down to the uni library and borrowed the only copy of Murphy's play. While unfortunately there was still no Timothy's work, it's worth reading the play first to see how he carried out this life-long story in a two-act play. It didn't take me long to read, maybe 2 hours or so. But I was sort of blushed inbetween sometimes, imagining the actors talking so bluntly at stage, about the expression of love and sex. Murphy ingeniously separate the two acts with scenes of love and sorrow, making audiences smile or unable to stop laughing for some of humors at first but incredibly sad and may even cry out loud during the second set. Handful of casts but every role is just en-punto. The very thing that touched me in this play is that the whole storyline and every details of love and conflicts are so real, which could happening any place or just next-door, but people just failed to notice how normal LGBT group is or how fragile true love is, as any types of groups or love. But all we could think about is "weird" "sissy""always fighting for marriage""unhealty life styles" or "HIV positive " and so on. Three scenes in the play has left me strong impression.The first one lie in the beginning when Tim wrote John the letter after their first date, talking about the erection he had and masturbation afterwords with the worry about the expression on sex could be so rush for a new couple. The monologue felt so bold yet cute when actually spoken out from a 16-year old schoolboy. While john is the one who actually read the letter with Tim adding up some of his feeling on the side, the audiences could definitely feel the chemistry and the beautiful blump in-between. The second could be when Tim, in his puberty and freshly new in college, went throughout all these temptation in gay bar and gay peers. He gradually accepted the "non-monogamy or open relationship" theory and decided to separate with John for a while. He alleged that they are both "sexual inexperienced" due to long relationship with purely each other . I believe that most of the audiences and readers will feel the stupidity and ignorance of Tim to trying to sabotage this wonderful relationship and affection(which has been built up throughout the previous scenes). This can be a turning point of the play and indicated the heartbreaking ending, especially when Tim regretted to have infected AIDS to John and cried in front her mom for redemption. But ultimately it shocks me by putting out straightly and ruthlessly how fragile love could be when facing temptations and fresh inspirations. My finally emotional outcry goes to a simple gesture or move instead a complete scene. Though I have to admit that the whole "finding out HIV positive" scenes is torturing and heartbreaking. The simple gesture that Tim "lifts up John's shirt with his mouth and snaked his head underneath it" when they lay on bed after the news and couldn't go to sleep. With too many briliant dialogues and plots in this play, this move had just crushed all the doubts and sadness about their relationship, leaving the ultimate intimacy and trust and treasure of each other. When that scene is supposed to be haunted with endless sorrow from on and off stage, this move has made us recall the beauty of love and support. Since in the play, the bed was hanging vertical above stage (audiences actually standing while leaning on the bed) , making audience have every move in sight. What's more, the design stage is lovely with the dim and lovely light around the bed on the dark and only some photos of their life together seen from behind. I can barely think of any better innovation in the film to surpass this scene. Though over three theaters around Australia has their versions and actors for this play, I still adore the first pair in Belvoir Sydney, Guy Edmond and Matt Zeremes just got this absolute chemistry and original innocence on those two characters, though the Brisbane version got much handsome ones. Anyway, looking forward to this film in August. I couldn't help but respecting Tommy Murphy as such a young successful playwright, hoping he could have more work on big screen as well.

这部同名电影改编自有澳洲同志版“罗密欧与茱丽叶”之称的真人真事小说《Holding The Man》，故事主轴都在描写一段长达十六年的爱情。

本书作者是蒂莫西‧康格里夫 (Timothy Conigrave) 三十四年短暂人生的回忆录，也是蒂莫西写给同志爱人约翰·可列奥(John Caleo)的最后情书。

影片中蒂姆对自己传染病毒给约翰非常的内疚和痛心，一直不离不弃的送走了约翰，而34岁的蒂姆相继一年多离开了人世。

与许多深刻的类型故事相比较，该片真不能算精品，当然影片中俩男主角颜值和演技还是吸睛指数比较高。

至于能够在艺术表现上有所突破，这个真没有，还有俩帅哥装嫩演高中生有些免其为难。

联想最近深陷“约炮”丑闻的吴亦凡，看来直男的烦恼不会比基佬们少多少。

关键的关键洁身自好最重要，做个专一、忠诚、善良的爱人是不是很困难？

平复狂乱的心，你会感受到安全、健康和幸福是多么的重要！

认真的看完了 想吐槽的是两个人演学生时代实在是有点出戏啊😂学生时代你我相遇 朋友们和父母们意外得知我们在一起了 我们也许会分开但不会分别 长大后也许每个人都会有厌倦期 但最爱的人永远是彼此 我们共同抗艾 我逗你欢笑 看着你难过我也不舒服 两句词印象深刻 “妈妈 就好像我亲手杀了我爱的人”“他的朋友 提姆”十五年的恋人 这段感情 是永恒的 杰克 在你离开后的十天后我就去找你了 在那十天里 我把我们的爱情故事写成了一本书 名字叫做 Holding The Man